It has been a long time, my friends. A long time since a regular gathering. We used to host a lot at our home because of the generous garden lawn yard wood area we were lucky to become caretakers for. It’s the empirical “we” now of course. Back in the sweet baby times, we had people over regularly – potlucks and such plus hosting a little in-house concert here and there.
Then everything changed (you know).
Friends still popped in to check on us. The brave ones who understood we might need to leave in a moment’s notice. I don’t know how they stomached it, but they did and I am eternally grateful to my real life guardian angels!
Then everything changed again (MotherHerisme).
Friends were less able to visit as things were very uncomfortable with MotherHerisme’s decline and addition of her two unsocialized dogs.
Then everything changed again again (COVID).
At my back gate, friends gathered things like the masks or food I made for them, and left things like treats, cards, and helpful groceries, all waving through windows. Friends stopped in to visit out on the deck a handful of times.
And now things are changing again (GET THE VACCINES, y’all, and come over red rover!).
Years ago I wrote a requested piece about gathering. It was intended for a project which never come to fruition, so I will share it with you now (if you’d like). Some of this may sound familiar to you and especially to you 😉
Coven Summons/ Gathering of the Coven/Love Notes to the Gathering Coven Why do we gather? We gather for a need to connect. Spiritual, informative, accidental, intentional, mutually beneficial, one-sided lead or received, humans gather by instinct. The need to connect is as important to our survival as the other Maslow defined basic needs (food, shelter, clothing). The specific gathering of women with purpose has its own unique historical moniker – a coven. Oftentimes it is not clear if you have summoned a coven, or if they have summoned you. But it always clear when a coven has been summoned. And once summoned, they will arrive. There is the Inveterate Optimist, with her classical profile and porcelain skin. She flows headily and steadily, never overly rushed or too slowly, full of deep bold richness, intelligence, and wisdom with definite undertones (pouring into overtones, never monotones) of giggling wit. She is the finest of eternal smooth wines which never spoil even with limitless uncorkings. The Gleeful Striking Red-Haired Beauty, tumbling over with energetic fun. Her eyes swim, flooded in spirit-filled sparkles and lively joy, which then crescendos and spills through her soul landing sweet soothing music onto all around her. She magically soothes even the roughest of moments into smooth soul-shines. The Earth Mother-in-Training, -in-Learning, -in-Exploring, -in-Experiencing. In all her abundant curiosity, wrapped in fringed laced compassion and flower adorned boots. She is tolerantly pleased fullness sprinkled with liberal acceptance on many fronts. She turnips the beet. The Commanding Brunette, orchestrating lives, rivaling the most famous conductors and composers. She feels the essence vibrations of those who exist in her presence, which call out and project an all-encompassing vigor from her soul. She shows up at the most difficult moments with her own popcorn pot and supplies at the ready. She instinctively protects without inhibition. The Centering Pivot, a powerful healer of communities and individuals through physical and spiritual connectedness. Her soft glowing curls and gentle inclusiveness spread validating joy like a million gentle rainbow-filled dewdrops on bountiful lavish lilac blooms, every day. She sees everything with and beyond the eye, then reflects truth whether difficult or elevating. The Artist, mixing quantities of chaos into beauty and societal commentary. Her prolific layering reveals unique constantly changing depths. She has an eye for revealing the beauty and secrets of contemplative sadnesses. She allows freedom through creative acceptance. The Dedicated Spiritual Vegan, organizes, researches, schedules, plans, lists, cleans, and is constantly vigilant about being organized, true to self, precise and neat. Her disciplined, tirelessly researched approach, out logics all others. She encourages truth exploration. The Muse (ician) a heavenly vision, by ear and by eye. She is able to pull soul soothing magic out of her instrument and have you feel as if its dulcet wave vibrations were brought forth just for you in that moment of stopped time. Her belief in the divineness of souls dictates her movements. She is an inspirer of mindful musical dreams. The un-Manic Pixie spreads thoughtful dedicated glittery fun wherever she goes. She is small in stature, but larger than any mountain in purpose. Her multilingual multicultural multitasking manner instantly charms. She is a shimmery bubbly example of life-enjoyment. The Pianist Preacher uses her artful words and lifestyle to gently, but firmly, coax everyone’s butterfly out of their chrysalis/cocoon/caterpillar/sticky-egg forms. Her hearth is warmed with enough generous spirit, that she is able to nurture cocoons into existence for you. She is a mighty leader of growth paths. The Realist Sage Grandmother has a sturdy presence and a rocking chair surrounded by her gatherings of wisdom, love, support, and toys based on her consideration of the unique soul presenting itself to her. Her attic room is full of inviting mysteries and fun. She is accepting, forgiving, guiding and present. The Receivers open their eyes, ears, minds, hearts, and souls to the most awful of revelations, without harsh judgement or problem-solving instruction. One might open you to aromatics, another to black garlic and walking, and a third to somatic experiences for healing. They are comfort experts at witnessing soul pains, at holding space for grief, at making space for acceptance and recovery, over and over and over again. The Mercenary Athena with perfect posture, stands proudly, head above the crowd. She is always calculating every possible front, vulnerability, and potential moves on the massive chessboard of life. She knows the game and strategies better than anyone else because she works hard at her practice. She has the wisdom of experience and the strength of intelligence. The Columbian, the Russian and the Nurse are steadfast in their natures. They know exactly who they are, what they bring to the coven and their own sense of how and when to share their gifts and insights. They are passionate truth live-ers. They are passionate truth tellers. They are a team of mutually uplifting dependable reciprocal support. The Teacher is also steadfast in her nature, knows herself well, and is a passionate truth live-er and truth tell-er. She differs from the previous group in that she leans more toward self-reliance in being uplifted and supported. She depends on her own strengths and knowledge, energizing others to do the same. The Live-Out-Louders with their effervescent souls bubbling out of their eyes. They laugh louder, curse bolder, uninhibitedly consume in their Bacchus-ness. They emit energy forces wherever they go, casually dropping bits of zesty sparks for others to gather and use. They have enthusiasm and ideas to spare. The Scientist drifts in and out depending on the intensity and interest of current study. She anticipates, hypothesizes, and acts accordingly, primarily without expectation (except for expectations of self), driven by curiosity of results. She is able to see things from angles others are blind to. The Militant Montessorian uncompromisingly shows up every single day to certify that her vision for development, growth, and knowledge are implemented without restraint. She is reliably constant in her approach, rendering resistance occasionally satisfyingly futile. The Inspirer instigates and does things that others only dream about doing. She is open and generous with her ideas and deep interest encouragement of others. She has a free spirit which is always open and up for adventure. The Serendipitous Tasker arrives only in those rare moments when planets, stars and entire galaxies align in singular perfect order. She is by far, the most hard-working, efficient, independent, self-initiating and focused. Laundry will be absolutely done to perfection, meals will be cooked, dishes cleaned, tires rotated, papers shredded, complicated puzzled completed, gardens weeded, sled runs sledded. She works stealthily until every known and unknown task is truly utterly complete. The Real Mothers are complicated. They exude myopic power, are fiercely protective, yet limited by their own self-absorbed encouragement. They have infinite love for their own which sometimes leaves no compassion or love for others. They are the keepers of our histories and our futures, with a warm meal waiting. The Mirrors spend their time reflecting the least attractive and most disappointing qualities in ourselves. Sometimes a mirror reflects so much more than we want to see. We don’t always like being around them and they don’t always like being around us. They are necessary parts of the coven for their reflective role. Just as we are necessary mirrors in other covens as we, in all our humanness, inevitably reflect the same onto others. The Men. Some men are important in the coven, not as members, but as supporters of the gatherings. These men are working hard to put things in order for the coven. They are the fitters of partA into partB with toolXYZ. They are the forager supporters of undiscovered paths. They are the one solution to one problem and done-ers. They are the holders of things, the vulnerable strength behind the determined strength. They are the models of inherent unquestionable self-worth and unwavering self-determined boundaries. They fortify the coven to experimentally mold, artfully shape, and to use their covenly transformative powers to whatever end their summons asks of them. Mr. SonHerisme, sweetly innocently sleeping next to me will one day weave through, around, deeply entrenched and wholeheartedly critically supportive of different coven gatherings, all on his own. It is his burden and his supreme privilege. These women, these people, and so many more in the larger outlying concentric rings of my coven, keep me alive, have kept me alive in my most trying traumatic times. My own coven called itself forth and rose into action long before I understood what tsunamis had spun into my world. Many lifetimes of “thank you,” would still be lacking in expression of my gratitude. I soulfully reach out to and embrace each of you with a universe of love and support on your life paths xoxo
Thank you for reading/listening and all of that. I appreciate you.
Love, Ms. Herisme xoxo