I have had many awesome work colleagues throughout the years. Most of whom should be richly rewarded for having worked with me so gracefully (I put in ‘good karma’ points for all of you!).
One colleague in particular comes to mind these days. She of humble infinite wisdom – although I believe she would accept the ‘humble’ part, I feel sure that she would ascribe her ‘wisdom’ to anything other than herself. But, she IS so wise. She knows what to say, and just when to say it. Even if you do not want to hear it, she confidently speaks what you need to hear anyway, and in such a way that you are thankful to receive the message.
I have been fortunate to know one other person like this in my life. They are both from an intersecting life place. They both know each other. They are both women . Their similarities end about there. One of them is very practical and pragmatic, the other is far more spiritual and mystical with her messages.
It is the practical woman who has been on my mind.
When I would bemoan some seemingly critical work decision/process/event etc to her, while trying to place my appropriate political chess pieces on the work board to best suit my group/employee/department, this woman would patiently listen to me. And she really listened: eye contact, nodding, asking reflective questions.
At one of these moments, when I was seeking her advice,
she replied, “You know, aint none of us getting out of this one alive, so you go ahead and make the best decision you can today.”
That has been a truth bomb for me.
Aint none of us getting out of this one alive – do the best you can today
Which then leads me to thinking about what is happening with mass shootings, bombings, trolls, outrage memes, and the extreme ridicule of our political system.
I know that some of the extremism is coming from a place of ideology supported after-life rewards. I know that some of the extremism is coming from a place of fear and hate. I know that some of the extremism is coming from a place of comfort with debasement due to anonymity.
Doesn’t it seem odd to you that in the thousands of years of modern human development, we continue to miss the mark in understanding and nurturing a way of communication beyond a fear-based disenfranchised model?
Or, perhaps, as humans, the “fight or flight” instinct is too strong for us to move beyond.
Don’t hate me – or, do hate me… whatevs… Isn’t it alarming that here we sit with all of our insights into science, space, human emotion, power of love and positive thinking, and yet we continue to be subject to very base instincts? I am not suggesting that becoming emotionless robots is the answer. I am suggesting that having the ability to live by “aint none of us getting out of this one alive – do the best you can today” mentality is the complete opposite of shame and blame fear mongering, and I am wondering why we have not made more strides towards better understanding, better nurturing, better support, better respect, better acceptance and better love.
Can collective humans even do that?
Does it truly begin by loving your family and friends?
Love, Ms Herisme xo
ps. I am well aware of the irony that I am not using my birth certificate name on this blog