Welcome to the basics, class
Humans, humans, humans, listen up! Until we cease and desist from glorifying willful ignorance over acceptance of facts surrounding human existence, we will continue to reap what we sow.
The following are basic human facts (female associated with she/her, and male associated with he/him for these examples, however I do recognize and appreciate there are many gender/non-gendered combinations of humans):
We exist because some male parts and female parts connected, reproduced, and were carried by a female for an acceptable gestational period whereupon we were birthed. ALL OF US.
Before a female human carries a potential new human around in her body, she must have begun menstruating. Female human bodies release an egg every month throughout a large portion of their lives, which then sits and waits for some male to potentially release sperm to be introduced. Basic reproduction, right?
The reality is that the meeting of the egg and the sperm rarely happens (given the amount of times both are available and released). So instead, the female human’s body cleans itself out every single freaking fracking month by bleeding. We bleed out what doesn’t grow into a new human. Bleed bleed bleed bloody blood. Sometimes its painful as frick (ovarian cysts for the win!), sometimes we stop it with drugs, sometimes we mother nature it up all over the place and bleed into silicone cups which we then dump out and use the blood as fertilizer in our gardens. The point is that female humans BLEED every month. What the devil is so flipping difficult to comprehend and accept this?
STOP taxing menstrual supplies. They are not items we “decide to buy.” We need to function in society and we, female humans, BLEED EVERY MONTH. (screaming it just in case you did not understand before this)
STOP punishing 12-year-old girls that need to be excused from class because they are in mind numbing pain from menstrual cramps/ovarian cysts etc. They are female humans that BLEED EVERY MONTH and the alternative is that they become pregnant asap (hello beginning of time and pedophiles hiding under the patriarchal flag and females dying during childbirth).
STOP punishing any age female human for tending to their basic needs as females, who bleed every single damned month, unless they are pregnant or on prevention drugs (which you don’t want to pay for either).
STOP pretending like menstruation is an anomaly – EVERY female human from the beginning of time has bled every month once she hit puberty until menopause, unless pregnant or dead.
START incorporating your newfound knowledge of females monthly menstruation and behave in a humane way when considering your positions on menstrual supplies, gynecological care, birth control, and shaming policies associated with every human female’s monthly experiences.
Speaking of birth. We have ALL been there – all of us. You may have had the privileges of not only being birthed, but also of giving birth. Since the beginning of time, females have been impregnated (by choice or by force), grown an entire new organ dedicated to nourishing the developing human while gestating, and given birth (through a temporarily insanely stretched vaginal canal or through surgery).
All of these things take immense effort and time and have lasting effects on a female’s body and brain. Why do we continue to pretend that it does not? Female humans are meant to strongly bond with their baby in order to provide for them. As it turns out, human babies cannot instinctually care for themselves.
Female bodies go through all of this change, growth, traumatic birthing, loss of new organ, bodily nourishing a new human through breastfeeding and strong bonding to protect the human race – and then walk away from the infant at 6 weeks to return to work as if nothing happened?!!? As if we are still not feeling the effects of our bones stretching to massive capacity in a 24 hour period and then shrinking? As if we are still not feeling the pull of tender tears or stitches? As if the future of the human race carried in this tiny package we just expelled from our bodies, no longer needs nourishment?
6 weeks is so arbitrary and has only to do with ill-informed misogynistic men deciding that was when a female could resume her sexual intercourse duties – fyi. THIS is what we are basing our care for newborn infants on. Super seriously.
STOP being against females birthing and caring for human babies.
STOP forcing females and entirely-dependent-on-adults-for-survival-ideally-in-a-secure-developmentally-appropriate-single-bonding-nourishing-relationship babies to separate prematurely.
STOP pretending as if birth, lack of birth, adoption, fostering, loss of child, miscarriage etc do not affect adult humans.
All of you shamers and blamers, LOOKIT HERE:
Humans are having sex, are always going to have sex, and occasionally procreate. Some humans cannot afford birth control. Some humans do not have access to birth control for other reasons. Some humans are forced into sex and pregnancy. Some humans defy birth control and still become pregnant despite their best efforts. The access to birth control or abortion is difficult or non-existent for most. Female humans will continue to become pregnant, by will, inattentiveness, or by force. This is LIFE at its life-iest. Stop punishing females for being pregnant and giving birth to our future.
When you punish them, you punish our future.
Nourish the female and baby. Give them as much time as they need to recover from coming into this world and providing the vehicle for coming into this world. They need food, water, shelter, clothing, hygiene facilities (toilet, shower, washer etc).
STOP making them come to the pediatrician 2 days after giving birth and waiting with their precious new life in a room full of germs.
STOP making them bring the future of the human race into Social Services to obtain food stamps or other assistance.
STOP forcing dissociation and detachment by institutionalizing infants at 6 weeks old.
STOP pretending like our childcare system is even close to adequate or affordable in order to shame females into “real work”
Dudes, if we can afford to subsidize multibillion dollar sports franchises, we can afford to take much better care of our females and the babies they birth.
Humans, sometimes we are idiots and treat each other inhumanely. STOP doing this. STOP pretending that just because you are not having the experience, you are on some moral high ground that others should aspire. STOP and check your racism, classism and bigotry if you are tempted in the slightest to be all, “well, they get pregnant to stay on welfare and I’m not giving up my hard-earned money for laziness.” STOP punishing your own future!
START checking on your neighbors, supporting your local domestic violence shelter, finding who needs support at your school and bringing supplies in to your school counselor for them.
Oh yes, and VOTE
Love, Ms. Herisme xoxo