Open up the champagne, pop!
It’s my house, come on, turn it up
It’s okay to nod your head to Flo Rida
In speaking with a friend today, I realized that we all live in our own little houses of logic.
While our logic may seem natural, sound and accepted truths among our like-minded peoples, it can be supremely difficult when your house of logic is trashed to bits by people with different values, beliefs, logics. Especially when those people are involved with deciding your, or children’s, safety and future (lawyers, social workers etc).
You can swing the doors to your house of logic wide open, offer the best snacks, drinks, entertainment, hospitality etc, and throw in swag bags to boot.
The hardest part is figuring out how to get
those people who are not willing to step inside your house of logic,
to just take that first step inside.
It feels like if you can entice them to get one foot over the threshold, they would totally see, understand, believe in, and champion your logic.
Unfortunately, lawyers, social workers, judges, therapists, etc are all paid handsomely to stay out of your house of logic. No matter how compelling it is to them personally, they will avoid going inside. They are there to see the larger world around your house of logic, and make the best decisions they can, within the confines of the law and their professional ethics.
Despite all of this,
I encourage you all to be brave
and continue to stack up all of the things you believe are important and true.
Pile it all up in your house of logic.
Especially if you are preparing for any legal custody/divorce battle(and it will be a battle – but that’s another post). Let your trusted professionals guide you as to what they can use or not use to help you. Even when you do not believe them, TRUST THEM.
Keep your house of logic for you and as you need it to be.
Keep opening those wide doors
and providing the tasty enticements
until someone threads out the useful bits for you.
I am rooting for you from over here in my little house of logic too!
Love, Ms. Herisme xo